Kids are not our property
I now and always felt that I am not able to give my fullest to my kids. This is the situation that is confronted by not only me but I suppose every single parent on this planet. We are not gratified with what we are giving our young ones. However, nobody on Earth has ever known how to do it well and what is the best way to parent a child. Even if you are having half a dozen broods roaming around, you are still learning. In fact, instead of parenting my kids, my kids trained me on how to be a parent. I was the one who learned from them and still learning. Kids are not our property and so we don’t have any right to yell or spank them. Our part is only to guide them to be a better person in order to live life with pure happiness and joy.
Kids teach us to work upon ourselves
Have you ever noticed that kids are almost our replica? They speak, work, walk, stand as we do. It is very necessary to control our behaviour and attitude especially in front of kids. I learned to control my behaviour in front of my kids. I checked that I was throwing tantrum which made them do the same. I corrected it there. They observe us very carefully and keenly. Picking up everything from our behaviour is the only task they are left with. They don’t only pick up but exaggerate it and present it in front of the society especially where it is not needed. Correct me if I am wrong. If we think we are superior to kids, then we are wrong. We are only a few more years experienced than them and that doesn’t give us any right to overpower them.
Creating necessary atmosphere
If you want your kid to be brought up in a better way, it is vital to create the necessary ambiance. This obtains a large part of parenthood. It is important to create a necessary climate so that wings of your birds open to its fullest enough to tackle everything. If you give extreme climate you are sure to nurture wingless birds. You must have noticed this in reality as well. Where mother Earth gives extreme climate, birds have no wings. This applies to our parenthood too. It depends on us, what kind of humankind we will be made available to the future society.
Nurturing healthy way of questioning
You must have noticed that kids have that irritating way of questioning everything they come athwart and we numerous times just flout that by giving absurd answers. It would only suppress their inquisitiveness about the thing they were curious to learn. Questioning everything is sick occasionally but we can have our kids question healthily so that only adds more information to dipper the little knowledge they already had. It sharpens their skills and knowledge about the gears. Questioning shows that your child is intelligent.
All we have to give our child is a healthy body, intelligence, and proper education as per our affordability without giving them any sense of identity. If they are identified by anything, it is only going to make them lame. Let them create one of their own. We are not sure, who they will meet in the course of a lifetime but by creating an atmosphere of love, joy, and happiness, we will certainly make sure that they would be happy with their life and will be blooming to their maximum potential.
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54 Comments
Surbhi Prapanna
Great piece of advice and I agree it is very important to be a role model in front of kids, because they follow more what we do rather than what we say? Being a good parent is a journey that we also learn as kids grow.
SWETA
Thanks Surbhi. Learning with them to avoid being harsh in any situation and teach them in tides and ebbs of life is important.
Vinayak koranga
Your words are as precious as pearls to be honest.
The way you have written this article is just impressive.
In my best knowledge every parent should know and should have to read this.
Pashmeena Chowdhary
You are right,kids teach us to work upon ourselves..A great read. You have very nicely highlighted the importance of simple things we neglect as parents.. They learn a lot from observation..Lovely article..
SWETA
Thank u Pashmeena
Archana
Thanks for sharing such an insightful thoughts.completely agree parenting is all about huge pack of patience, we also broke down sometime and shows our harsh side to kiddos but never realize that our that fraction minute behavor can broke them so deep, many things we are also learning by our mistakes only.
Jameela
So rightly said, kids are our teachers, they train us how to parent them…they are keen observers as well..
SWETA
True Jameela
Aakanksha Vohra
Well said Sweta. We must first lead by example, set the right environment and then expect from kids. Just because they are kids and younger than us that doesn’t mean at all that they have no individuality.
Alpana
Yes, we have to let them write their own destiny. Our part is to encourage them, give them strong values and a listening ear. And offcourse a healthy surroundings where they can bloom.
Pr@Gun
Completely agree, they are not our property but i will take it as we are their builders till they are able to take their own decisions. Kids learn form what they see & observe in there surroundings and parents are the first teachers.
SWETA
Very true Pragun. They are with us so that we can nurture them to be happy forever despite of any odds.
Sindhu Vinod Narayan
This is so true. We are their role models. They look at us to learn things from us initially. So we ought to be careful .
Mahati ramya adivishnu
Well said. Many parents doesn’t have enough maturity to understand that kids are their own replicas in their attitude and behavior and so, yelling doesn’t help. Instead, they should become role models for their kids.
SWETA
Exactly. That’s what I meant to convey. Thanks.
Supriti Garg
I loved your thought that your kids trained you to be a parent. Having that kind of gratitude towards your kids, speaks volumes about your kind heart and warm personality. This is a must read for the new age parents who don’t listent to the kids, pay heed to their curious questions and are not patient with them. U are a wonderful soul who brought up such a fresh perspective
SWETA
Thanks Supriti
Mittali
Very well expressed. I must say as a parent I have a lot to learn.
Anjali M Naik
Very well said. We have a lot to learn from our kids before we start teaching them. We can just provide them a perfect background, support and a healthy environment for their better growth and development.
Rashmi Karthik
Very intriguing topic and very well written on how before imposing discipline or expectations on our kids we parents need to work on ourselves. Providing the right nurturing for kids is paramount as they pick things so fast that we don’t even realize. Loved this post 🙂
Pragnya Mishra
Parenting can’t be done perfectly, even we have a dozen kids still parenting can’t be perfected. It is always learning, a work in progress where the tiny human is bringing out best in us.
We can only work on ourselves to present our thoughts to little masters who like a game of karma turn out our replicas in a more complex environment. I resonate with your thoughts.
ujjwal mishra
kids do what they see rather than what they are told to do, yes hence its a huge responsibility on parents to lead by example
Arushi Seth
I agree kids are not our property. They do imitate us which makes it very important for us to ensure we show them the right way to react and behave. We often forget and think we can mold them in a way we want, but as they say, each child is different and as they do not come with a manual, we have to let them grow at their pace. Lovely post.
vidhya
This is soo true!!
Noor Anand Chawla
Very well said. We really must take stock of the values we pass on to our children as we are solely responsible for them in their formative years.
Jhilmil D Saha
The title is quite hard hitting and apt to make us realize where we parents often falter in bringing up our kids. Very nice post that every parent should go through.
Surbhi
A good reminder to all the parents. Kids come through us but are not ours to own. We can just guide them to be the best version of themselves.
Aditi Kapur
Very well said. Children are not our property. It’s our responsibility to show them the right path and learning from them is also a sign of their healthy growing up:)
vijvihaar silja
Totally agree, kids are more strict teacher who teach us to do proper parenting. They are not our property but its our responsibility to curve there life in better way & stand in front of them as there role model. Very well penned down
Manisha Garg
Absolutely True my mind echoed after reading each and every word in this post. I hope I give my best to my child.
Nisha
I totally agree that kids are not our property and we can’t treat them like that. Some of the parents dont understand this and they really create unhealthy environment for them.
Khushboo
Thats a very helpful post for the parents for their kids. Parents should give their kids space and that comfort to them.
Rashi Roy
That’s true, kids learn more by following us rather than listening to us. Very nicely written.
Prakhar Kasera
I agree the most on one statement, kids teach parents on how to be a parent. Nobody is a trained parent, if parents are raising their kids than kids are also the reason that parents are PARENTS.
Docdivatraveller
You have touched an important topic. Just because we gave them birth doesn’t mean that we own them.
Cindy Dsilva
Very true. We need to let them be and find their own selves instead of forcing them to do things your way or according to tradition. They are happy and become smarter too.
Rahul Prabhakar
Such beautiful blog post this is. As a father to two tiny tots I agree with everything you’ve written.
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Maneet Gulati
I totally agree with you. Parents are born, when kids are born. So we also learn so many things as they grow up. You have mentioned some very important points, there is so much to learn from the kids.
Gurjeet Chhabra
I totally agree with you, doing my best to give my kids best. I dont think perfect parenting exist. We keep.learning in each stage of life
Tina
Sweta, this awareness is very important for all parents. Great reminder 🙂
Disha
I completely agree with you, kids are not property. They are different individuals whom we can help and be ready to explore the world on their own.
prerna wahi
A well written and informative piece Sweta. I liked reading it.
SWETA
Thanks Prerna
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