Are we raising adult babies?
Protecting our kids is our mantra, and this is not only with anyone parent but every parent of society. Society is turning such that we nowadays are more careful about the desires of our kids, and we take every step to shelter and provide that room which we think we weren’t offered. We are not raising a kid this way, but we are nurturing an adult baby who will always require help in everything! There are various facets which have popped up and have thus crippled the new generation. There are ample of aspects that our future cohort will be devoid.
Failure and rejections are as significant as a victory
In the race of coming first, we forget to teach our kids to handle the rough failures. Ones upon a time I was at my daughter’s school friend’s birthday party. There was a round of the age-old game of passing the parcel. However, what I noticed was when the music stopped, instead of punishing the kid, which we used to play, the kid was allowed to take that parcel away, and the new property was introduced to continue the game. Out of sheer curiosity, I questioned the parent that what was wrong with the older version of the game? She replied, I don’t like a disappointed kid, and they leave with a happy face as they get to carry a gift home. Well, how will the kids handle disappointments and failures?
You are poisoning your kid with that extra dose of care
We do not allow our kids to be carefree but instead keep an eye on them every instant. We have substituted outdoor games with digital games. The world is rushing and our kids too. However have you ever wondered about the growth of our kids? Physical activities, hurting themselves, cycling, racing with friends, playing games with other kids, laughing and giggling in the splashing rain, making boats out of extra sheets that accompanied the newspapers have demolished. Caring is good, but an overdose of caring is nothing less than a slow poison which will ultimately ruin your kid psychologically.
Are you immortal?
Well, owing to Mother Nature, we will fall apart one day. We are forgetting this fact and treat our kids as if we will be there to care for them forever. As sooner the earlier we learn this, good it will be for our kids and their future. Let them know things from an early age. Stop saying, and he is too small for this. Let them be independent and handle situations of life on their own.
Fewer numbers and more hands to care
With every coming generation, we see that parents tend to have just one kid. As they say, we cannot handle more and want our only kid to enjoy and have each and everything which we did not have. The kid is the superior centre of attention for both of the parent. As a result, the only child ought to get spoiled more. Having the number of kids is the sole decision of both of the partners but that extra attention and care and getting things that he does not require will ultimately lead him to gain jealousy, dependency, rude, helplessness and leave him abashed for a lifetime.
Stop hovering over your children
Let them be themselves and stopover caring for them. Over loving them now will only lead to a mentally and physically disabled child. He will require your assistance in every step of life. When they fall, don’t go running when he is having just a scraped knee. Tell him, it is a part of the play, and it happens. I have seen mothers creating havoc for the scrapped knee. Oh well, our mother asked us to wash the bruise and go playing again as it will be okay with time. Mothers now days keep on shouting as a part of world war III.
Stop resolving conflict and be a judge for free
We get too much involved with their friends and games, and we tend to be a free judge for them over every situation of our child. The child learns to get reliant. He will search for our assistance in even a small dispute with their friend over a toy. Ask them to solve their conflicts on their own as they have created it and should be solved on their own without your backing.
They will not starve if they stay hungry sometimes
When you are attending a party, and they have prepared dishes wherein your child is fussy enough not to have some of that, don’t go running to the kitchen to prepare something or ask your friend who has thrown a party to cook something on the go. Ask them, it’s okay, and he can have it when home. I have seen moms rushing to the kitchen without thinking about other guests to cook something as her baby does not fancy anything from the dishes prepared.
Let them go and race outside instead of playing temple run on mobile phones
Mobiles are a complete no. Well, owing to modernization and digitalization zeroing, it is not possible; however, the time limit helps a lot in such cases. Learn to say no ones in a while. The child who doesn’t learn to listen no will be a nuisance to the society.
We should teach them from rejections and failures. Success doesn’t make a good child, but denial and failures do. Life was not a smooth run for you or me, and it will not be for coming generations too. So stop creating slippery roads for your kids as in one day when you will not be around it will be difficult for them to handle the waves that life would throw at them.
Totally agree to you, we should bring up strong kids than sensitive kids. But sometimes our way of bringing up clashes with the adults of the house, where the contra arises.
Being over sensitive is of no point.
Yes Dimple. Though we would sound strict now but kids will thank us in future for sure.
I follow all these since the beginning. I think some cultures force parents to be after the kid at all times.
Great to know that Cindy. Cultures apart parents want their kids to be super hero in every aspect.
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Thank u Siddharth
I absolutely agree with you. U have shared veey useful.. Thanks
I think we should from
Our moms how they gave us freedom and concentrated on different activities. That is the reason we are stronger now
Our parents knew it from first!
totally agreed, may be they won’t understand now but later on they will be thankful for all of this, for all the nostalgia and for everything, ultimately they are your kids. They won’t go anywhere. thanx for sharing this helpful article.
Very true Rohit. Definitely cthey will thank us for this.
I truly agree with you.. Thanks for sharing such useful information
I totally agree with all your points. It is very important to teach our children to be independent since beginning.
I agree with you! It was nice post and inspiring too. Thanks for sharing!
I absolutely agree with your views, today things might look wrong but they will understand it all tomorrow. 🙂
That’s a good read, and very nicely penned. I couldn’t agree more to this, esp for 2 points; failures are as important as victories and let them go out & play instead of mobile games. Video games are spoiling the generation, making them lazy and too dependent.
Thank u prakhar
Thanks for sharing informative post. In our house we decided that our children will play atleast 1 hour outside. And we don’t allow them to use mobile phones as well.
Nice take Sundeep
Well i am guilty of over caring for my baby.
Im guilty of overcaring for my kid. But in this day and age all the negative news around us makes me paranoid for the safety of kid.
Yes but anyway we can give our best to protect them but not overprotective
What a beautiful read. It is very important that we raise emotionally strong kids than sensitive ones. I do follow these myself and can totally relate to every word you have written.
Thank u Gayatri
True to an extent. Over caring and over protection might not let them develop confidence and ability to fight or stand for themselves.
Yes it is vital that they make their own decisions sometimes
Nice tips, I also don’t believe in helicopter parenting
Totally agree with this. When we over protect we forget
1. Will nt b there for ever to do the same
2. We take away the independence from the kids n make them completely dependent on us.
This inwardly only harms the kids… so uts better to allow them to act first n when they can’t is when we adults need to step in.
True…if we as parents interfere in kids life beyond requirement, this takes away the independence and growth of the child
Exactly. U understand it so well!
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