He or She

In this today’s world of gender equality and women empowerment, we have come to a point that everyone is coming to terms that each and every gender is equal. However, when it comes to conceiving a baby, all mouths including that of females equally speak of HIM and not HER. I always sit and wonder, and many thoughts hover over in my mind. The question denies leaving my mind. I have seen ample of families around that are happy having four girls around and have also seen families who are not happy to even have one.

What makes them do so? I wonder. It is not their fault and not the fault of their partner too. It is society and the burden we carry on our shoulders. Why it is not called a complete family if you have a single daughter. Oh Well? Mouths will speak up. Now go for the son and complete your family. It all depends on our thinking and the atmosphere we are living in.  People in countries apart from Asia would never ask for any gender preference as they have different thinking and different mentality than of ours. However, with the advancing age and altering mentalities of people, changes in education and also changing views to look towards gender have changed the preferences in our country too. People have started going for girl child and they shower not equal but more love to girl child compared to that of  boy.

Going for a single child or two depends completely on the choice of the partners but gender preference definitely depends on the mentality. Women are getting noticed in whatever field they go for and they are creating their own space. They are no less than man, but I can say are more than them.  Handling home and office is like in a blink of an eye. They have created wonders. I wonder, there might come a time when they won’t require men for anything.

In early times men were dependent on men and that was the cause men were considered to b superior than them as financially and emotionally they had no one else than man. However, with the changing times, they have started playing their own role. So, in today’s time, whether you have a female child or a male, it is only important to have a healthy one and gender preference are neglected by expectant parents.

I smile when I see today’s society. It is wonderful to see my husband loving my daughter more than my son. I have to pursue telling him, please don’t ignore him. He is my son. He winks at me saying, “She will always be my first preference”. However, it is child is always a child to parent no matter HE or SHE (Him or Her).


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    Samira Gupta

    Very nice topic Sweta. No matter how much we move with time but still our society calls a family Complete only if there is one boy and one girl. Same gender children and you are seen as incomplete. Comments like had there been atleast one boy/girl it would have been nice.
    Recently my cousin who already has a son, went ahead and adopted a girl saying that she couldn’t tolerate 2 boys hence didn’t want to take any chance.

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