I was busy cooking dinner in the kitchen when my daughter gushed in. With rage written all over her face and tears dribbling from her diamond eyes, she stood in front of me with her hands right in her arms. “Mom, why does it always happen to me?”, I don’t want to play that game and she insists me on playing that. I don’t want to play with them, but I want to play”, yelled she. I got confused about what was she up to!
Emotional Management is very much vital as the other subjects like History and Geography. Children grow up but still, they do not grasp what is going on within them. It can disturb their entire life and the path of development too. Our education system is such that it will take extra efforts to teach a fish how to climb a tree but will never teach them what is a significant part of living in the water. Emotional management is something that should be taught right from standard 1 till the end of school life. It is vivacious at every step and every age and stage of life.
Parents are leaders
We as a parent don’t understand kid, maybe due to lack of time or we misunderstand ourselves as their owners. We straight away order our kids owing to our emotions and yell, don’t take that toy. Don’t go for the play. Give your toy to your sibling. Well, not giving your toy to someone is a natural feeling and that is common. However, we straight away order our kids without making them realize. This is perceived by a kid in another way and thus emerges the feeling of hatred and rivalry for the sibling. They feel that it’ wrong if we do not give our toy to someone for a play and so I am not good. The feeling of self-hatred develops. Kids should be made to comprehend the difference between the rise of emotions and their application. There is a fine line between both of them and that is what we have to teach them. When this is understood, the child will never fall prey to the turmoil of emotions in their life. Emotions are sure to rise and there is nothing wrong in it. What is wrong is its application knowingly or unknowingly.
When schools can teach kids one plus one makes two and also where the amazon forest is situated and the science behind the pyramids of Egypt, why can’t it cover the basics of emotional management. First and foremost, a child should understand the feelings that it reflects and the wave of sentiments that oozes out of them. Emotional feelings and types like happiness, anger, frustration, affection, love, sad, fear, excitement, craving, confusion, etc should be taught. They should also be educated about the types of happiness they come across. They ought to know that getting angry on someone is as ordinary as getting happy. Also, the feeling of hugging someone is a feeling that is as typical as hitting someone with a bat. However, we do not go and hug someone though we feel like, similarly we cannot go and hit someone with a bat. So, what should we do in such cases when we face such turmoil of emotions?
What should be done in case of sheer love, what should be done when you are red with anger when some of your friends did some mischief which you dint like? Should you sit in a corner with rage written all over or should you go and ask your friend to carry it on? Such things are left untouched and untaught and that is the reason people face severe problems with relations and emotional management.
Teens and emotions
We forget sometimes that we can reach our destination anyhow. Where trains are not available, we can manage with any private vehicle, car or rickshaw. But since we are not shown the other phase of car, rickshaw we fail most of the times. Trains are not the only way and so another way of dealing with emotions are ought to be shown. When kids grow up to their teens, they search for their friends and not parents. The reason behind, we as a parent are not able to understand their overflowing emotions and they find their corner of safety in friends or else but not parents. Children should be skilled the ways to manage their sentiments. Ones they are well aware and have perceived their feelings, that is where they have won their battle of life. Several such questions would be coming in the form of tides when they grow up. They are emotionally tilted to someone and are not self-reliant.
A kid grows up haphazardly by parents thinking love is what they need. However, we teach them to be emotionally attached and reliable as they are not sure of who they are and how to manage themselves. If this one is taught when they are kid itself, mind my words, the kid is sure to win. The child grows up and when it enters its teen, there is where it realizes that all the chords of emotions are tangled somewhere and is not aware how to entangle it? If such things were taught priorly, dealing with teenage would be easy.
It takes ages to learn that negative feelings like anger, frustration, hatred are as natural as love, affection and happiness. if taught at an early age, it would be easier for the kid to recognize and learn that such emotions are common and we should learn and tackle hatred with love, frustration with calmness. It is common to be envious, however, if the child doesn’t understand that it is merely an emotion, he will not be able to calm and that’s where the fall begins.
Emotions are sure to puncture the tire of life at some point, however, we all know what will happen to our vehicle of life if the tire remains unpunctured.